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Lilly’s Second Week

August 2, 2011

Week 1 was spent snuggling & adoring our baby. Week 2 was spent in a very similar way, though we did manage to leave the house twice – once to go visit the lactation consultant and once for an epic let’s-find-mom-some-clothing-that-fits-her-postpartum-body trip.

IMG_5636{our first ever photo of the three of us}

I had a slight I am a horrible mom moment early in the week. After sleeping for a few hours at a time most of week 1, Lilly decided to start week 2 of life by waking up every hour on the hour and eating for 20 minutes before falling asleep. Somewhere around the 3:30-4am mark, I totally lost it. She was crying, I was crying, it was a mess. She was hungry, I was frustrated with feeding her (which is still quite painful), and I was so so tired… and then I felt even more frustrated with myself for getting upset with my girl when all she really wanted was food. That’s been the low point so far. Things got better after that feeding-wise, and I made an appointment with the lactation consultant at the hospital.


At our appointment, the consultant told us that we were crazy for setting an alarm and waking up every 2-3 hours to feed our baby bird through the night. Since she’s back up to her birth weight, they’ve told us that waking her to eat isn’t quite as crucial as it was in the first week when she was losing weight. So, since then, we’ve been letting Lilly wake us when she’s hungry… and guess what – she’s not too hungry at night! We’ve had 5-6 hour stretches of sleep, and have even had a night of 8 straight hours of sleep (we actually woke her to eat at that point). I hope I’m not jinxing myself by typing that.

IMG_5658{Lilly, asleep in her baby straight jacket}

We can’t stop adoring our baby girl. She’s so amazing, and quite possibly the best baby in the world. And I’m only a little biased. πŸ™‚


This week I’ve been crying over the same things as last week: I love her too much, she’s growing already, daddy’s going back to work too soon and I’m going to miss him while he’s there. Also add in crying to those stupid Pampers commercials and the Subaru commercials where the little girl is sitting in the drivers seat talking to the dad and then all of a sudden she’s 16. Please tell me you know the one. (Jason just looked over at me and said, “really? you’re crying at a Subaru commercial?” Guilty as charged.) The hormones seem to be normalizing, though, and as the week has gone on, I’m no longer crying as easily. Thank goodness.


I also cried (happy tears!) when my BFF showed up at the door this week. She came ALL THE WAY FROM NYC — FOR THE DAY! — in the midst of her own wedding-planning AND moving adventures — to visit and meet Lilly! Oh my goodness. There are no words for such an awesome surprise. No. words. (But I’m quite happy that she adores Lilly as much as J & I do!)

IMG_5666{Lilly meets my BFF. They adore each other.}

I have slight frustration that I’m not physically back to normal, but then Jason reminds me she’s only 2 weeks old. I can’t believe it’s only been two weeks – in so many ways, it seems like she’s been a part of our family all along. Also? I dislike how I look in about 90% of the pictures of Lilly and I. I spent some time these past two weeks avoiding photos, more time contemplating deleting the photos that have been taken, and even more time just embracing it. So here I am: unshowered, without doing much to my hair, makeupless, and feeling jiggly and exhausted. Not photos I’d normally be psyched about sharing on the internets (and let’s be honest, the REALLY bad ones will live only on my hard drive), but this is our life. Our jiggly, tired, makeupless life. Someday, when I can shower without imagining the cries of a hungry baby or have time/energy to put on make up, I’m sure that I’ll look back fondly at these times, and I’ll be glad that Lil has pictures of how our first days together were spent. Even if I have crazy dark circles under my eyes and am wearing the same 3 shirts because nothing else in my closet fits. πŸ™‚

IMG_5689{Reading to my girl. Which, in the case of this book, involves describing the colors & patterns of the hearts and stars on each page. As you can see, she is fascinated.}

My favorite thing this week is that she’s giving us so many more facial expressions. I love her little smiles (even if she’s sleeping or just gassy when she’s giving them to us) — I can’t wait until she gives us smiles in response to something that we’ve done! She’s moving around more, stretching her arms and legs, and I can tell her neck muscles are getting stronger. We have a few picture books with black & white objects in them, and when we hold them up in front of her, her eyes get bigger and she just stares at them. It’s really cool to see her taking it all in.



11 Comments leave one →
  1. August 2, 2011 10:50 pm

    She is totally beautiful!! And so are you. Why a wonderful surprise that your friend came to visit. A true friend!

    An I can totally tell that she’s gonna be a genius already.

  2. August 2, 2011 11:13 pm

    Jen, I had SO much pain with nursing too. Did your OB give you a prescription for APNO? It saved my nipples, and probably my nursing. One reassuring thing our pediatrician said was that in general, there’s “too much dogma” floating around about nursing… that as long as the baby is gaining weight, you’re doing it right. He was right – all of a sudden about 3 weeks in, the pain was gone. But not after I squandered precious paternity leave time dragging my post-partum body to lactation courses and LC’s, convinced I was doing it wrong.

    Speaking of post-partum body do NOT be too hard on yourself! I was told that it takes 9 months to BE pregnant, and 9 months to NOT be pregnant and I found it to be utterly true. M is about to turn 11 months and finally I’m within just a few lbs of my pre-birth weight, and finally my tummy seems about normal for being 31 years old.

    I think it’s great that you guys aren’t making yourselves wake her every few hours to eat anymore. Back when my brother was born, and for many of my dad’s pediatric years, they let babies sleep through the night in the hospital if they were able, like he was. I think they now have people wake their babies for feedings mainly out of a fear of potential lawsuits that would probably be groundless but could still happen. Weissbluth (Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child – my Bible!!) is also big on going pretty early with not waking them, because the part of their brain that controls sleeping is still developing.

    It sounds like you’re doing fabulous – if you’ve only had one rough-new-mommy-moment, I’d say you’re a superstar! This has been so fun to read. It’s made me decide that we’ll go for #2 sooner rather than later… love reliving those precious first weeks. And they DO fly by, and it IS sad… but once their personality starts coming out little by little, more and more, you fall EVEN more in love with that than with their tinyness. It’s so amazing, it’s a gift that keeps getting better every day. So glad you are now enjoying it!! XOXO.

  3. August 3, 2011 1:52 am

    XOXOXO Three more days, Lilly and we can snuggle! That Subaru commercial made me choke up a bit when I first saw it. And when I was on the drive over to the hospital, I kept picturing you as a little girl putting on your shows, or playing with baby dolls and I was getting choked up. I guess parents will always see their children as children, no matter how old they are!

    Some of the best advice I ever received was “When you are trying to decide if your child is old enough to do something, look at them while they are sleeping to make your decision”. They always look younger and so innocent when they are sleeping; you will hesitate to let them do anything that makes them grow up too quickly!

  4. August 3, 2011 9:17 am

    I think you look fab-u-lus for just having a baby!! I look forward to reading your posts about what you have learned so far. I am planning to nurse for a little bit, and reading what you have gone through so far is helping me realize a lot.

  5. August 3, 2011 3:09 pm

    That Subaru commercial choked me up too. πŸ™‚ Your daughter is totally gorgeous! Nursing is hard and painful at the beginning but so worth it when things take off. My motto was always ‘Never wake a sleeping baby!’ Course after eight hours I would wake her too. πŸ™‚

  6. August 3, 2011 8:36 pm

    Wow…what a totally relate-able and great post. I’m a blubbery mess! That Pampers commerical – forget it! Lilly is so pretty. I was told “never wake a sleeping baby”…so I’m going to take that advice πŸ™‚
    Congrats and enjoy every minute of your baby girl, just like I am!

    Paige xo

  7. August 3, 2011 9:42 pm

    I still choke up at that Subaru commercial…and Toy Story 3? Forget it. It’s a sob fest. My “baby” will start first grade in a couple of weeks and it seems like I just brought him home from the hospital last week in so many ways. Nursing will become easier and painless in time…stick with it! What a gift that is to Lilly.

    Also, the best advice I got as far as getting my children onto a good schedule was the order in which we did things. I always fed my boys as soon as they woke up, then we had wake/play time, and then I laid them down for their naps when I could tell they were getting tired, but I made a point to put them in their cribs while they were still awake so they could learn to get themselves to sleep on their own. And then they woke up happy. Let me tell you, they are 4 1/2 and 6 1/2 years old now, and they have had the best bedtime routines since they were babies. Even when transitioning into “big boy beds” where they had the freedom to get out of their beds, they never have because they don’t need Devon or me to help them get to sleep.

    Anyway, just my two cents. πŸ™‚ Enjoy every minute!!!


  8. August 4, 2011 2:56 am

    Jen, I’m so happy for you. Lily is so pretty and sweet – enjoy every minute πŸ™‚ Breast feeding gets better and much easier. Hope all goes well at your appt! πŸ™‚

  9. August 4, 2011 9:59 am

    My baby is 19 and in college. I cry every time I see that Subaru commercial (and my hubs has the same response as J).

  10. August 6, 2011 9:24 am

    The bad news – I am still not physically recovered and my youngest is almost 7 YEARS old!

    The good news – you will look back at those messy – hair – with – no – makeup – photos in years to come and smile fondly, and realise you were fine, and your daughter will love you anyway and she will treasure those photos – so PLEASE don’t delete them.

    Yes – she IS the most adorable baby girl in the world!

  11. August 7, 2011 10:09 am

    Your photos are great (and you all look good). My favorite one is the last one where Lilly is sound asleep.
    There was an old Kodak commercial…close ups of a baby…that can STILL make me bawl when I think about it!

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