A (long, boring) summary of our winter, complete with pictures.
This would have been a heck of a winter to be out skiing daily. It snowed almost every day here in SW MI, and although it was cold (a real Minnesota winter, I like to say!), it was so beautiful.
Playing peek-a-boo with her sister
We owed our plow guy a small fortune. Massive snows here at least once/week. In fact, by the end of January, we had so much snow in the back yard that Lilly couldn’t even walk. It was higher than her waist, so she’d sink in and be completely unable to move. Daddy had to carry her all over the yard to play, which is kind of not the point of outside play. (The point of outside play, if you were wondering: to tire out the kiddo so much that they a) go to bed early and b) sleep through the night. Oh, and I guess if they learn something or have fun, that’s good, too! :) )
But many days it was too cold to go out, and especially too cold for baby sister to go out, so we have been playing inside a lot. I am so very very thankful that these two little ones seem to enjoy each other. Lilly will often say “Baby Eleanor! I love you!” and when Eleanor giggles at some of the silly things Lil does (e.g., roaring like a lion), it pretty much melts my heart. I’m certain there are no better sounds.
This silly little pouty face!
Elli got her first taste of food, and I bought my first box of baby food. Although the picture looks promising, this is not going so well. She doesn’t seem to like the taste of baby cereal. We quickly switched to other real foods, but she’s not overly enthusiastic about you spoonfeeding her. She IS enthusiastic about shoving anything in her mouth, and has stolen pieces of food from me. So we’re having a lot of fun watching her explore lots of different foods. Also? We are cleaning up a lot of vomit — she’s got an easy gag reflex which seems to be triggered by even the smoothest of blended foods. Wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences and how your baby’s vomit issues resolved? We’re in (occupational) therapy now, but I am actually mostly convinced that she just has to grow out of it.
Also, this winter, I taught a new class. Prep work was extensive — I have to fill about 4 hours of class time each week, and although it was in a subject that I know and love (biopsychology!), it’s been a few years since I’ve examined current research on some of the topics that I wanted to cover. Probably the coolest part of my job is that I get to learn new things that are incredibly interesting to me. Probably the worst part of my job is that there is endless amounts of interesting psychology research out there… which means that narrowing my focus sometimes takes a lot of hours, and I’m a chronic over-preparer anyways, so I make more work for myself than I really need to.
Another difficult thing about a new course is that I’m constantly critiquing myself. When I teach a course I’ve taught several times, things go smoothly, I know which questions to anticipate, how to link topics so that everything flows for the students. Teaching a new course means that sometimes, things go less smoothly, research that makes sense to me seems contradictory to students, I’m not as efficient at linking themes, some of the readings don’t go as well for students, etc. So this, in combination with my over-preparedness, means that I spend hours upon hours preparing for each lecture, then walk away from the class feeling like I didn’t really do a, b, or c as well as I should have.
Baby E decided back in December that she would not, under any circumstances, take a bottle. Which is fine, except I am trying to do this little thing called “work” at least two days/week. Fortunately, I have an amazing department, a flexible job, and the ability to be on-campus in the morning, head to daycare to feed E around lunchtime, then over to Panera or another place with free wifi for a few more hours. This was manageable (and I guess, still will be manageable), but not ideal. I lose about 1.5-2 hours of my work day with all of this monkeying around, and then have to make up that time at night and on weekends. This led to many many nights of up-till-2-am, then up again at 6 (with Elli waking to eat at least once in there). Ahh! allusive work/life balance, I desperately seek you! The sleep deprivation has most certainly taken its toll on my memory, and I am absolutely, positively looking forward to next term, when I get to teach my most favorite (and most well-prepared) class (a class on drugs & addiction). I add new data, studies, reading, etc to my class each term, but it is so nice to have a solid base to start from!
Despite the craziness of my teaching gig this winter, we did manage to have a few fun adventures. We showed up in MKE at least once, a special appearance to congratulate my BIL on a new job, and to wish him and sister best of luck on their move to a new state. Grandpa, uncle T, uncle R, cousin Haley, Lil, and I went skiing (while Nanee and baby E supervised). In true Lil form, she was hesitant on the first run and did NOT like it. So I dropped her off with Nanee and took a few runs with my bros. When Lil came out a bit later, she was much MUCH happier about skiing. (So happy, in fact, that I took her again the following day!) In one weekend, she went from being completely unsure and not putting much weight on her feet to skiing out in front of me (I held a harness/leash that was wrapped around her waist) and asking to go faster! I hope we’ll get so much more time on the hill next year, and that she’ll continue to be my little ski buddy!
The four of us went swimming together once (with plans to go more!). I’ve been taking Lil swimming nearly every week, and she is becoming quite the little swimmer. Strap a little froggy float thing on her and she goes! She barely needs my help, but we have fun playing mermaid (Lilly) and fish friend (me). I have a bit of mama guilt about having such fun with Lil while E is hanging out in the gym’s daycare, but E is getting big enough that perhaps I’ll be able to take both of them soon. During E’s first swim, she didn’t seem very impressed, possibly a little grumpy. But she LOVES bath time, so I’m confident that she’ll come around sooner or later!
Lilly has become mermaid and princess obsessed this winter, so when we go swimming, we play mermaid and fish friends. It’s pretty sweet, and involves lots of swimming around the pool chasing each other, followed by breaks at her mermaid castle (aka the ladder positioned in the corner of the pool). Her imagination is really taking shape, and it’s so fun to see what she’ll come up with next. Usually, she happily plays by herself for what seems like hours at a time, but occasionally, we get roped into a game of “singing with my daughter”, in which Jason or I am her “daughter” (not sure she actually knows what that means) and we hold hands and sing and dance in the kitchen. If you’re not doing it right, she’s all, “mama, like this!” and then demonstrates the pose that I should take (usually on one knee, with the other foot out and the arm high in the air). We’re having so much fun with her. We’re having so much fun with baby Elli, too. There are many days that I’d just like to freeze this time in our lives, to keep the happy carefree playful kiddos… then again, I’m always eager to see what they’ll come up with next!
Jason’s family visited for a few days after E’s baptism. As I mentioned yesterday, I have very little memory for anything these days (7 months of sleep deprivation, I blame you!), but I do remember lots of happy chaos during our time together. Oh yes, and my daughter the ringleader told the other kids it was okay to draw on our walls. (thank goodness it came off easily!)
L & E are so lucky to have cousins that are so close in age – together there are 7 cousins, all under 7. And they played together wonderfully.
This was really the first time Lil was able to play with her older cousins – last Christmas she was only 18 months and she was sick for half of our time together. This year, though, she’s more interested in playing with other kids and she had SO much fun with them.
Elli P then got to meet all of her older cousins, including new cousin Mary who is only a few weeks older than she is. The babies were pretty cute together, and I caught them checking each other out quite a few times. It’s so amazing how different babies are — personality, stage of development, etc. Even at only 4/5 months old, these two little babes were so very different.
Other happy memories from our few days together: there was real conversation with other adults (while the kids were upstairs drawing on the walls), Christmas presents, meals out, meals in, and sledding. A good time, indeed.
(And Elli P got in a photo or two in her christening gown with her godmother!)
I’m returning to this little neglected space, and its overwhelming. So much has happened since I left, and also, so little has happened since I left. Isn’t that life with little ones, though? Every minute seems to be simultaneously everything and nothing, important then forgotten. Life is full and (mostly) happy. I’m going to start with our little story where I left off, but I’m afraid it may be void of lots of cute and important-at-the-time details — not because I want to tell a boring story, but because I simply cannot remember anything. It’s sad, really… but I guess that’s at least 85% of why I write things here anyways… memories.
E was baptized the Sunday after Christmas. Not really a popular day for baptism, but we managed to find a time when both of our (scattered across the US) immediate families could (somewhat easily) be in Michigan. That is sort of an impressive feat, and most definitely one worthy of a special occasion. So, E was baptized.
We chose E’s aunt Brey & uncle Robby to be her godparents. Unfortunately, aunt Brey caught a terrible terrible stomach bug on the way to MI, so she wasn’t able to be at the baptism. She did cuddle E later in the week, though! And uncle Robby did a great job filling in, even though he looked waaaaaay nervous when I passed the baby to him to hold during the baptism.
After the baptism, we had a little lunch at our house. Somehow we crammed nearly 20 family members into our tiny house for pulled pork sandwiches and cake (thanks to my in-laws for picking up food for us to serve!) It was a quick and easy meal, but nice to have so much love for baby E in one place at one time!
So, Christmas happened. And New Year’s, too. Were yours great? I hope so! Mine were pretty wonderful, but, as predicted, happened faster than a blink of the eye. And now I am in the early parts of 2014 with about a million Christmas pictures to share.
Let me back up to early December for a second. As is tradition, we waited for some of the first signs of snow, and set up a Christmas card photo shoot. The Christmas card photo seems vitally important to me, if for no other reason than to mark the passage of time. I save all of them in a photo album, and flipping through it is a good opportunity to reflect on who we’ve been and where we are now. Luckily, my three partners in crime are willing participants in my insanity. This year: candy cane hats and a wooden sled (to contain the toddler!).
Once we snapped a cool hundred or two photos, we bundled up further and hit our fave local tree farm to buy half of a tree (the front half). Lilly was totally into it, and we made sure that she had a say in picking the *perfect* tree. Her main criteria was that it would be SO BIG, which really made things easy because when you’re two years old, just about any tree on the lot is SO BIG compared to you.
Elli hung out in the Ergo, keeping me toasty warm.
Once we chose and cut down a tree, Lil drank some hot cocoa, and we all sang Christmas carols the entire drive home. Lil is really loving Christmas carols this year — she’s got “Jingle Bells”, “Away in a Manger”, “Santa Claus is Coming to Town”, and the Christmas Monkey song from Curious George’s Christmas special. She’s pretty tone deaf, and the phrasing isn’t quite there yet, but the girl really knows how to bust out the lyrics — eyes closed, jazz hands spread wide above her head. It’s the best.
Lest you think baby Elli is the only one benefiting from mama’s
cheapness DIY skills, I present Lilly’s latest homemade toy: a dowel mounted on a wood block.
Thrilling, no? Lilly seems to think so, which is good because putting beads on this dowel is a good way to use her fine motor skills. And now that she’s mastered the dowel-in-a-block, we sometimes string beads on pipecleaners, too. She hasn’t quite mastered that one, yet.
(Other activities for hand strength and fine motor skills that we’ve been working on: cutting with a scissors, and using a pipette or syringe to pour vinegar into baking soda. I’m really enjoying the amount of concentration all of these activities require!)
And an in-depth tutorial, in case you want to make it yourself: sand down a wood block, drill a hole in it, insert a drop of glue & a dowel. Tada!
You’ll also notice that we’ve entered the era of dressing-up. “I want to wear my dress!” she says. Sure, Lil!
I’m obsessed, I know.
But once I started searching for DIY Montessori mobiles, I was pretty hooked… and after making the first one, even more so! Maybe here is where I mention that these mobiles follow a steady progression as the baby ages, and should match infant development. It’s a super-cool concept, I think, although my baby is growing & her needs changing faster than I can keep up here on the blog!
Here’s a basic timeline of when to use which mobiles, borrowed from Little Red Farm:
- Black and white pictures (0-4 weeks)
- Munari Mobile (3-6 weeks) — Here’s my DIY version
- Octahedron Mobile (5-8 weeks) — Here’s my DIY version
- The Gobbi mobile (7-10 weeks) — See my version below!
- Dancers Mobile (8-12 weeks)
- Flowing Rhythm Mobile (8-12 weeks)
- Butterflies (10-16 weeks)
- Hummingbirds (10-16 weeks)
- Mother and baby whales (10-16 weeks)
- Bell on a Ribbon (12-16 weeks)
- Wooden ring on elastic (12-16 weeks)
- Primary colours mobile (12-18 weeks)
- Wooden musical mobile (16-20 weeks)
My most recent mobile was an attempt at the Gobbi. Most Montessori mobiles are made from beautiful, real materials, and for this one, it seems that wool or cotton embroidery floss is the most popular tool used to make the balls. Since I simply don’t have the time to make something that intricate right now, I decided to paint styrofoam balls instead. Admittedly, its not as beautiful as many of the wool felt mobiles I’ve seen on the Internets, but, hey, you can’t win ‘em all, right? :)
You can’t tell from this picture, but the darkest ball is about 12″ from the stick and each subsequent one is 1/2″ closer to the stick.
Elli seems to be interested, but I think her favorite by far has been the Octahedron mobile.
I was also inspired by the falling leaves in October to make a tiny mobile from a stick & leaves so that E could enjoy the beauty of the falling leaves, too. I usually shy away from projects like this that are sure to fall apart quickly, but this one has survived a few weeks with toddler & infant, so it was worth the few minutes that it took to glue it all together!
I had to include this last picture of E covered in blankets and big sister’s pjs… I’ll give you one guess as to who is responsible for keeping baby warm! :) It’s so fun to have Elli awake for longer periods of time so that the girls can “play together” on the floor. El has recently started grasping objects, so Lilly and I have had fun giving her different things to grasp, and I’ve recently set up the next set of mobiles… so expect more mobile posts to come because, like I said, I’m obsessed.